Arousal is psychological and arises in the mind

Men’s sexual drive motivates them to gain sexual release through intercourse. Women do not have an erect sexual organ that they can use to penetrate their partner. So we assume that women get their sexual release from being penetrated. But a sexual desire is always to penetrate. The motivation to penetrate comes from the mind of a man who has an erection.

Men think about sex much more frequently and explicitly than women for hormonal reasons. There are many triggers for male arousal throughout the day: from women on the street to billboards for women’s underwear. Men also get excited by kissing and caressing a lover.

When women get fat, ugly, or old, some men are no longer attracted to their wives. Other men find that their wife’s lack of enthusiasm for sex becomes a turnoff. Other men are (biologically) aroused regardless of their partner’s attractiveness or enthusiasm. This answer is undoubtedly linked to expectations. Any man who watches porn will have high expectations that can’t necessarily be met with reality without paying.

The idea of ​​a man having an orgasm with his head full of non-sexual thoughts (such as his current work schedule or a recent sporting event) is unthinkable. Of course, his mind is totally occupied by the sights, sounds, and sensations of sexual activity with a lover. During masturbation his mind focuses on a fantasy or visual stimulus such as pornography. A man is motivated to masturbate because of sexual thoughts that he enjoys. Women are often unaware that orgasm involves a mental focus on eroticism.

A man gets turned on when he wants to have penetrative sex, which is when he has an erection. So men assume that if a woman is up for sex, she must be equally aroused. Women do not have erections. Having an orifice to offer to a lover has nothing to do with arousal. Anyone can provide a mouth, a vagina (women only), or an anus for a male partner to penetrate. These orifices are not sexual organs. No matter what type of stimulation or how long it is applied, the recipient will not have an orgasm.

A man has an erection (or not) so male arousal is very evident. Women do not experience arousal (only during masturbation) as a distinct state of arousal (as men do) that inevitably leads to orgasm. Female arousal is a state of mind that directly precedes orgasm and is therefore short-lived. Women have to make a conscious effort to arouse themselves by using fantasies that have nothing to do with their real-life sexual experiences.

As we know from male experience, there is no point in trying to reach orgasm with an unexcited sexual organ. The stimulation that leads to orgasm consists of massaging the blood flow (specifically the corpora cavernosa) within the tumescent sexual organ. Tumescence is achieved when the brain focuses on some aspect of eroticism. Women can only reach such a state when they are intensely concentrating on a fantasy during masturbation alone.

Orgasm is a nervous system response, which means that the brain controls it. The brain focuses on some aspect of explicit eroticism, which causes an increase in blood flow in the sexual organ. A man is easily aroused by many stimuli, especially a mistress. For a woman, the opposite is true. A woman has to be antisocial to get the focus on eroticism that she needs for orgasm. The reality of sexual activity is not remotely erotic for a woman. Women enjoy abstract concepts associated with penetrative sex rather than images of genitalia and penetration. A woman keeps her eyes closed when she is alone, so that she can properly focus on the fantasy in her mind. With a lover, there is no chance that she will get the necessary focus. A male lover would never give her the time she needs to orgasm because he wants to push his own.

Many prejudices are based on the belief that people can make conscious decisions about how they behave sexually. It’s understandable that women might think this way because women rarely experience sensitivity. Men should know better. No one has a choice about what causes their arousal. However, in the past, men have suggested that gay men should force themselves to have sex with women. Obviously, it doesn’t occur to men that the means by which they become aroused is not a conscious choice. We cannot change our subconscious responses. This is equivalent to telling someone to teach themselves how not to feel hungry or thirsty.

It is not possible for two people to have an orgasm at the exact same moment. So we always have an orgasm alone. But men ideally need to ejaculate into a lover’s body for their orgasm to be typically observed. While a woman experiences an orgasm when she is alone. So orgasm is a selfish pleasure that we enjoy alone. But the male orgasm is an experience a man hopes his partner will enjoy sharing. A woman may be pleased that a man was able to use her body to gain her sexual release, but her ejaculation does not excite her as a male lover would. Sexual phenomena are much more vital for men than for women. Women enjoy eroticism through a more subtle mechanism that involves focusing on concepts rather than physical reality.

Similar situations are recognized in anger, fear, and epilepsy, all of which are physiologically related to sexual response. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)

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