Losing a loved one at some point is quite painful. I hope to God that no one ever part ways unless a valid reason arises. Separations and distances are cracks, an abyss formed in a relationship. You yearn for her, she yearns for you and no matter what you try to hold the attachment again. That’s okay because it’s your state of mind that keeps you alive and optimistic for the situation ahead. One would think that it doesn’t matter if we are not together right now, but soon we will be united in a union that will be universal and unbroken. That hope keeps you alive from within.
Adults and teens yearn for so many things and aspects in a relationship. Longing is the basic nature of human beings and we cannot deny it. We long for security, we long for the love, caring, sharing, listening, and happiness that comes from our chosen partner. It is not entirely wrong or entirely correct. Platonic love exists, but it is very difficult to maintain that level of relationship in these times when we have become quite needy. We absolutely need those things in life and it’s almost like breathing. As if our survival depended on that soul. People are attached to their parents, their lovers, their pets, their partners, and sometimes there is a point of no return where you become obsessed or depressed without it. Attachment to a human is fine, but with material things made of plastic if they make you angry in their absence, then you really need help.
We all know how to surf the net, browse websites, click and post pictures and tell everyone how happy we are in our open but clustered life. For example, if our partner rejects something or neglects us for a few moments or days and does not speak to us as we want, we begin to doubt ourselves and the susceptibility of that person. The problem is that everyone thinks they are a vulnerable liability in this life cycle. “My partner is so strong that he would not care if I left or if someone else left.” This thinking makes us insecure on some levels because thanks to these social sites, we have become peepers in our own home. What is my husband doing, who is that handsome boy my wife is talking to? What does my girl do when she clicks on so many selfies? These questions increase the level of insecurity and desire. I’m not talking about the son / daughter thing, as it is the basic protection and security trait, but what bothers us about the couple is our lack of faith in the term of real love and loyalty. We live in constant fear of being separated from them and to stop that we consider more love (well technically more possession and a threat to their privacy and mental space) Just because we feel insecure about losing them we group their growth and personal development. and in turn they get frustrated and start to walk away. This again makes us vulnerable and we try to act normal as they want, but inside we scream amid our chaos of unsafe boundaries. We need them to be with us all the time, but if they let out a bit of frustration, we return to normal and try to find new ways to redefine our relationships in a beautiful phase of life.
The good news is that the balance in this seesaw of life depends on both. If one is heavier and the other lacks loyalty weight or weighs more in doubt, then it will surely remain uneven or worse, the seesaw would break your legs and your heart. Keep in mind that modern culture, modern groups, and the challenges moving forward will surely require a fair amount of effort to support a family or love life. It will never be easy to completely hold on to your partner and throw their things on him all the time. It will never work. Remember this simple rule that a separate string will break or hurt your fingers. You better hold it gently in your hands and let the winds of truth and loyalty carry you in the right direction in life.
