Let me say this first: Breastfeeding and adult nursing relationships are not for everyone. Some people may even be repulsed by the idea. But if you’re even a little interested in trying it out with your man, you need to make sure you follow these 5 breastfeeding tips.

1. Make it a special occasion: Breastfeeding your husband or boyfriend is an incredibly intimate and private activity. But if she does it every night with her man, she will quickly lose her attractiveness to both of them. Instead of nursing your man regularly, try to separate him and only do it once or twice a week to make it a special occasion.

2. Make sure you’re both clean – I can’t believe I’m saying this! But even in 2012, some people don’t take their hygiene and sexual health seriously. Before you start breastfeeding your man, make sure that you are both clean and that you are both STD-free.

3. Try talking dirty: If you really want to heighten the sensations you’re giving your man while you’re nursing him, why not try talking dirty to him at the same time? You don’t have to say anything that’s totally outrageous. The easiest way to talk dirty to your man while nursing him is to simply describe how he feels.

You could say things like “That feels really good,” or “I love how you suck on my nipples,” or “Having you suck on my breasts really turns me on right now.” That’s all about it. As you get more comfortable, you can begin to expand on what you’re going to say.

4. It’s the perfect time for a handjob: If your man is lying on your lap while he’s sucking on your breasts, then you’re in a perfect position to start handjob him at the same time. Just like talking dirty to him, you don’t need to do anything fancy. Simply grab onto his shaft with a gentle grip and begin stroking slowly. Ideally, you want him to ejaculate after he has finished sucking on his breasts.

5. Make sure he reciprocates. While breastfeeding your man is usually a mutually erotic act of sex, it can be something your man enjoys much more than you do. If this is the case, then make sure he reciprocates and does something nice for you.

So if you find yourself sitting there waiting for him to finish, maybe then make him eat you. Or maybe you have ‘that position’ that you really enjoy. Either way, make sure the sex is for both of you to enjoy, not just him.