“My boyfriend says I’m too sensitive.” Oh. It hurts when the man you love says that to you. It is even more painful because you feel things so deeply. It may be difficult for you to imagine that a person could be overly sensitive. What your boyfriend is probably trying to express is that he wishes you wouldn’t take everything so seriously.

Right now all you can think about is why your boyfriend would tell you that you are super sensitive. He probably didn’t do it to hurt you, even though you took it that way. Instead, he is trying to express to you that he would be happier and more content in the relationship if he didn’t have to be so careful about what he says to you at all times. If you are the type of woman who allows herself to feel and absorb things on an intense level, it will affect your relationship.

Try to move away from the pain you feel for his comment for a moment. Consider whether or not there may be some value in what she said. Does he sometimes make little jokes that you take as insults? Does it hurt when you catch him looking at another girl? What happens when she forgets to say “I love you” or “I’ve missed you”. So you get mad at him? While it’s completely understandable why these things might bother you, your reaction to them is what you have to deal with.

Instead of looking at his every action, consider looking at how he treats you overall. If he is loving, caring and compassionate, that is what really matters. You have to start seeing his feelings towards you more in a big picture instead of every little instance and how it makes you feel.

When your boyfriend thinks you’re too sensitive and has told you so, don’t ignore it. He tells you for a reason. Probably because men just aren’t attracted to drama queens and that may very well be how he sees you. If he has to constantly deal with putting out the emotional fire after you’ve gotten angry, that gets tiring and old very quickly. He will label you high maintenance and want to move on to someone who is calmer and less sensitive.

Try to detach yourself from those little comments that bite. Don’t let them see that you get mad at them and, again, try to remember their general adoration for you. If you can make yourself less sensitive, he will definitely feel closer to you.