When I’m at the Lady bars (it really should just be a bar… but I’m trying to stay lucky), shopping at the grocery stores, drinking coffee downtown, and looking at the beautiful women, one thing comes to mind. mind “Is she vanilla or chocolate?”
We all have our own individual sexual style and being with a woman is so wonderful in itself that it is difficult to describe or put into words the magic of lesbian love. There are an endless number of ways lesbians can have sex, and we have a variety of women to experience sex with, bisexuals, women who enjoy sex with other women (no labeling necessary), queer women, and transgender lesbians. Here are some reasons why loving a woman is so fantastic:
Roles can be changed up, forward and backward. We can be dominant and in control (tearing her clothes against the wall) and then completely submissive and gentle (soft kisses and caresses). Due to the way bodies are formed and created, we are free to do what the imagination allows us to do. Playing, changing and trying out different roles is empowering and exciting!
Of course, there is the big “O” for orgasm. Women don’t need to recharge or stop, we can keep going, it’s as if we put on batteries! Non-stop sex sessions are common among lesbians compared to straight guys (one more reason why we’re so special!).
So there is something about seeing a woman cum that is unreal and incredibly sexy. It is a powerful surge of energy that can make the darkest days find light.
A woman’s body is soft, so soft is where we find safety and warmth. There is nothing on this planet that can compare to the beauty of a naked woman, artists throughout the centuries have tried to capture it but have never emulated it!
The best part is that sometimes you find a woman who is completely attached to your sexual stamina and who is able to explore and experience sex in an open and sympathetic way.
However, with that said, some of us go for a more traditional, sweet and soft (vanilla) approach, while other girls like it hot, sexy and hard (chocolate). What determines our sexual energy or expression of love? Is the way we strip and rub each other a representation of who we are?
Some people highly value who you are by how we do it, but really, how you have sex says a lot about how you feel about yourself. Show off your confidence, maturity level, and intimacy skills. Do you like it with the lights on or off? Public or behind closed doors? Upside down or missionary? Are you just a giver, a taker, or both? Are you happy with how you feel about being sexual or does it make you uncomfortable?
Depending on how you answer the questions will determine how you express yourself in bed and how the other lady will mirror that. Being physical can make us feel vulnerable and exposed, that’s part of the process of connecting with another human being. The healthier your self-image and confidence, the more wonderful experiences you’ll attract, so great sex starts with yourself (and I mean that literally too…that’s the next article!).
Once you’ve mastered it, the rest is about having fun and expressing yourself. So what do you think you are, vanilla or chocolate? Personally, I’ve always gravitated toward bittersweet dark chocolate!
Alex Karydi ~ The Lesbian Guru
