We are all familiar with Sigmund Freud, but just in case, he was the one who developed the psychoanalytic theory and its theory. It affirms that our mind is divided into three different parts, the conscious, the preconscious and the unconscious, which are the bases by which much activity caused by the psychic apparatus, the id that is in the unconscious, the ego that is in the conscious, and the superego that is in the preconscious. Your subconscious is the combination of our unconscious and preconscious mind and every day the two of you fight for a compromise.
An example of this is when you feel the urge to eat while in an important meeting. Your ID wants you to eat because it is what will satisfy you, but your superego acts as a moral compass and tells your ID that it can wait until the meeting is over.
It is an example that can be used in different situations and sometimes it is not always as simple as your superego asking your id to expect a reward. Sometimes it is much more complicated than that and leads to a disorganized mind, but these are some of the following 10 examples of what you can do to reorganize and take control of your subconscious.
1. Learn to put aside your desires.
Many of your mind’s problems start with your unsatisfied desires, and as they begin to accumulate in your subconscious, you will begin to think that what you are doing to yourself is unfair and cruel.
What is the meaning of holding back if everything means nothing? This is where you should voluntarily change your way of thinking by putting those desires aside so that your subconscious can do it too. In the end, it will help you focus on what you need for yourself.
2. Expressing your wishes.
Unsatisfied desires sometimes come down to not even expressing them. Because of that, your subconscious still has the nagging thought of ‘what if’ and it will start to corrode your mental health. The best way to get rid of those thoughts is to simply express your wishes so that you don’t regret not talking about them. It can be a request from a family member, a need for change in a relationship, or something simple like the desire to do something different with your life.
3. Allow yourself the little joys in life.
Your subconscious may guide you to the right path, but sometimes it will act as a hard moral part of yourself that will not allow you to enjoy even the slightest of joys. Learn to reward yourself for keeping control over your subconscious and give it a line on what you can and cannot allow yourself to have.
The smallest of joys can have a huge impact on your mental health.
4. Reflect on the needs of your life.
Although your subconscious helps filter out many stimuli that you receive on a daily basis, it does not mean that it will always give you a clear path on what to do with your life. That is within you and in order to guide your subconscious, you need to reinforce those goals by breaking down many of the conflicting beliefs in your subconscious that resist you to meet those needs.
5. Be in an environment that promotes positivity.
Your subconscious takes in a lot of information from your environment and plays an important role in shaping your behavior and mental health. Therefore, for continuous improvement of your subconscious, you must be surrounded by a type of environment that promotes safety and comfort.
Whether it’s a good circle of friends or a place to call yours that doesn’t have any triggers to remind you of past trauma or mistakes. If your comfort zone is surrounded by people and things that alarm you, it is no longer your comfort zone.
6. Move before you think.
Ultimately, your subconscious is there to keep you safe and guide you on the right path, but as you already know, that is not always the right thing for you and you must move against the current that is your subconscious. What prevents many people from moving the way they want in life is because they allow their subconscious to believe that they cannot achieve a goal in their mind without even trying whether or not they will fail. It is better to fail in the attempt than to fail without even taking a step towards your goal.
7. Use your mistakes to learn instead of repressing it.
If it fails, your subconscious will then believe that you should not try again as it will only result in the same result. Your subconscious is only doing this to protect your self-esteem, so it will discourage you from taking the same action that will damage your self-esteem.
However, you can’t expect to always be good at something on the first try. You have to let your subconscious know that so it doesn’t stop you on your next round. That way, failure becomes a guiding lesson on what to do to move on.
8. Balance your setback with your success.
As a way of reminding you of what you failed to accomplish, your subconscious would mention past mistakes that set you back on your goals. It will draw feelings of anxiety and discontent within you that will cause you to give up on your goal and make you believe that you are setting yourself up for failure instead.
To counter that, you must weigh your setbacks against your accomplishments. To keep your head up as you focus on your goals in life, you need to get your subconscious to balance the thoughts of your setbacks with the thoughts of your successes. If you focus solely on your setbacks, you will only see yourself as a failure, and if you focus solely on your successes, you will not be able to see what failures are coming. You need to train your subconscious to balance these thoughts, where you use your setbacks to avoid failure and you use success to maintain your self-esteem.
9. Accept that uncertainty is part of life.
A primal fear that every person has is deeply ingrained in their subconscious, much of their trauma and pain is also there like sharks in the water. However, a fear that they all share is that of the uncertain.
The simple fear of not knowing what tomorrow holds for you and what you can do tomorrow or in the near future. Your subconscious will constantly have that thought running behind your head, creating questions that will bring you anxieties that will make you stop moving towards your goal as you feel that in the end it will not matter if tomorrow is your last. .
To avoid that dreadful feeling, you must look deep into your subconscious and instead of answering those questions, learn to accept that you don’t have all the answers in life’s uncertainties. You must begin to believe that it is comfortable to move forward without a concrete plan.
10. Be satisfied with yourself.
It is within our subconscious nature as people to never be satisfied with what we have accomplished. You are no different. Either thinking that you can always do better than what you have done or thinking that what you did was bad. It all simply means that you are not satisfied with yourself and your subconscious would tell you and force you to improve.
To control that, a reminder must be set that what you are is what you want to be. If you can’t go it alone, you can surround yourself with supportive friends and family who will tell you that you are perfect just the way you are.