The authors omitted a very important piece of the puzzle in their best-selling book. He just isn’t that interested in you. Deep down, every woman knows what that little piece of the puzzle is. Our perception and our reality are worlds apart when it comes to relationships today. Although our reality has changed dramatically, our perception remains the same.

The tired but persistent perception still holds men responsible for most of the problems experienced in relationships; This is not to say that women are unwilling to take on a small responsibility. Women often blame themselves for giving and loving too much. Interestingly, females only tend to give and love too much when they are involved with males who treat them badly or at least males who show little interest in them. Could it be that women continue to love men like this because it’s just in their nature to give and nurture, or could it just be that women love a challenge? If you are a male reader, you probably suspect that it is the latter. Although, if you are a reader, you know that it is the latter.

Women pursue commitment in the same way that men always pursue sex. Men often lose interest in women after bedtime, and women often lose interest in men after getting them to commit; That is the reality, but it is certainly not the perception that most people have of women. Why? Because it doesn’t fit, males are “bad”; and women are the “good” stereotype we’ve gotten so used to.

Women who claim to love too much are the equivalent of men who will say or do anything to get a woman to bed. These women will tolerate anything and will do almost anything to achieve their goal: to get a man to commit. However, once they have made their commitment, they usually get bored and resentful. Finally, after finding a reason to blame men for their unhappiness (i.e. boredom), they move on to their next conquest. This is the compromise game, it is the female version of chasing and discarding.

I found it interesting, after having interviewed over two hundred people and having recently written a book about women, to hear that a large number of women were ending their relationships as a result of reading. He just isn’t that interested in you. Interesting, because I knew from my research that these women were probably ending their relationships for the same reason that they had stayed in them; they saw the men they saw as a challenge.

I was curious, so I set out to find out what was really behind the apparent phenomenon. He wanted to know why women were really breaking up after his encounter with that little book we’ve all heard so much about.

I found that the frankness of the book made it difficult, if not impossible, for women to continue to rationalize their boyfriend’s behavior once they had read it; There was nothing left for the women to discuss or talk to their friends. They no longer needed to try to figure out what their boyfriends were thinking, or spend time wondering where their relationship was going. The need to argue, analyze, wait, and yearn has been removed. As a result, many women ended their relationships. They had mistakenly believed that the men in their lives were complicated and mysterious, or in other words, challenging; instead, they found that her boyfriend’s behavior was categorically identifiable and even predictable.

However, what should not be overlooked is the fact that it was the apparent “cookie cutter” behavior of the men, that is, the loss of the mystery of the men, that caused the women to end their relationships. . Obviously, it wasn’t because of the way the men treated them; otherwise, the women would have ended their relationships before reading the book. So it seems that women are ending their relationships after reading the book for the same reason that they often ended them before reading it: They think the men in their lives are boring.

One of the co-authors of He just isn’t that interested in you has co-written a new book, entitled It’s called a break because it’s broken. Even without reading the subtitle, one could easily assume that the book is intended to help women deal with the difficulty and consequences of a breakup. One might assume this due to the book cover prominently displaying an ice cream container.

It will be interesting to see if this new book will also spread throughout the country; although, I must say, I don’t think I will. The reason is due to a little-known fact: It is women, not men, who end most relationships. I know what your preconditioned mind must be thinking. You must be thinking “well, women wouldn’t end most relationships if it weren’t for bad behavior from men.” But this is not necessarily the case. Separating is actually one of the most common reasons women cited for ending their relationships and during my research, the most frequently given reason for ending or wanting to end their relationship was “my husband / boyfriend is boring”.

With this in mind, one has to wonder why the new breakup book doesn’t have a big ice cold beer on its cover. The answer to that is probably pretty simple:

A) As a society, we keep the bad behavior of women secret; believe me, if it had been Hillary instead of Bill, you would never have been wiser.

B) Women buy many more books than men.

Obviously, these kinds of books are meant to empower women. However, I think the opposite is true. Women will never be empowered by the false bravado of the media that is constantly used to fuel their egos and in some way compensate for their past oppression. Women will only truly empower themselves when they own the dark side of their nature. When they are held accountable and take responsibility for their own bad behavior, as well as the harm they often inflict on others.

In our culture, men have been reduced to nothing more than their animal nature, while women, on the other hand, are still somehow separated from theirs. The devil and the angel, so to speak, live within every human being. Women are in no way excluded from this fact of human nature. At some point in history, many societies assigned and considered certain characteristics and behaviors natural, that is, acceptable, for each of the sexes. To this day, people are inundated with these same exaggerated and fictional images of male and female behavior. Women, like men, have been divided in half, capable of owning only part of who they are.

For women to achieve real equality and stop being their own oppressors, they will have to recognize, in addition to taking responsibility, the disrespectful way in which they tend to treat men. In truth, women are just as often the villains as the victims. Recognizing and accepting this fact is the only way for women to become truly whole.

This process may require women to ask themselves some pretty tough questions that they certainly won’t like the answer to. Questions like:

How many boys have I flown? How many times have I not returned a boy’s phone call? How many times have I lied to a boy? How many times have I cheated on a boy? How many times have I chained a boy? How many times have I used a man for his money? How many times have I used a guy to get attention? How many times have I used a guy to have sex?

Women do all of these things and more regularly. Also, they are usually done to men who really like them and are trying to treat them well. Unfortunately, good guys are often seen as willing, willing to compromise, which translated into masculine terms means they are easy.

Women didn’t need to read a book from a man’s perspective in order to understand and gain insight into male behavior, all they had to do was wonder why some men are treated the same way they often complain about being treated. . .. And, of course, without any hesitation an answer quite similar to the title of that little book would come out of the mouths of all women – I just don’t like it that much.