“TEEN”, this word itself, gives parents the nightmare or, to put it another way, goosebumps.

If we introspect ourselves, we will come to the conclusion that at some point, we also experienced the same things that our children are experiencing now. In fact, everyone has to go through this stage. So why all the fuss and crying about it?

It is the tendency of every human being to be skeptical of a change.

Change is never acceptable to any of us, regardless of where or what country we live in.

So how would we accept such a big change in our children? Which is sadly true, as a TEEN, it involves change – A physical change and a mental change.

This is the most difficult stage in everyone’s life, as a child is about to become an adult, leaving behind his childhood. It is the most sensitive phase that must be handled with great care and compassion.

Adolescent, it may well be compared to a mirror, if handled carefully, it will reflect the sweet memories when the child looks back, otherwise it would break and always leave the scars behind.

Therefore, it becomes the responsibility of the parents and adults, such as the grandparents in the family, to treat the adolescents tactfully.

Teenagers suffer typical symptoms such as:

1) Do not pay attention to what you say.

2) Always in a bad mood and thinking that he is always right.

3) Prove your points and get arrogant.

4) He does not like the company of family members.

5) The importance of friends in their lives increases to such an extent that they fight with their parents over them.

The above list is illustrative only and not exhaustive.

The best way to deal with Teenage Blues is:

1) Become an active listener to them.

2) To first understand your concerns.

3) Don’t treat your friends like your enemies. They need friends at this stage of their lives.

4) Be their friend, trustee and problem solver too.

5) Don’t set rules for them without giving them reasons. Tell them the consequences of not following the rules.

6) Have faith in them.

7) Give them some work and responsibility for it too.

8) If you tell them not to do certain things, give them reasons for it and remember, they are no longer little children, they will listen to you without expecting a logical response from you.

9) If they question you about certain things, don’t be offended like now, they want reasons for everything. They will not accept your orders as is.

10) They should also know about your teenage days and how you behaved with your parents. What mistakes you had made and how you had corrected them. Who else is going to do the honors, but none other than the grandparents!

11) If the grandparents are yours, in the house then there is nothing like that since some children open up very easily with the grandparents.

12) Sometimes grandparents act as a link between parents and grandchildren.

In summary, what I want to say is:

TEENS today are the most misunderstood class in the world.

It is the responsibility of the adults in the family to understand them, since they have more experience and maturity to handle them.

Adult proactivity is very important when a child’s behavior changes.

Enjoy this stage of your children as they are preparing to face the new challenges of the outside world.

If you can enjoy the first step, the first words of your toddlers, then don’t forget, this is also the first step of your very toddler, who now wants to take the big leap to face the whole new outside world.

Instead of accusing, stand firmly behind them like a friend, guiding and supporting them in taking the big step. Give them your hand when they need it.

Always watch your actions, since children from the very beginning learn everything by watching you.

If your behavior does not match your actions, then they will not respect you and they will not listen to you.

The most important thing is to always show a lot of love and compassion towards them.

Be strict but not rude. And please don’t take them to doctors, counselors or psychiatrists, because who else can understand your child better than you?

Take full responsibility for your children. Absorb good values ​​into them early on. These values ​​and your good deeds are definitely recorded in the back of their minds.

Even if their behavior is not good now, but once they pass this stage, they will definitely become good human beings with good moral values.

Always remember, adolescence is a changing stage and every change has to change, accept this change and take full responsibility for this change to happen in a positive way, to see how they become good citizens and good human beings.