It is understandable that you are in a very fragile state if your boyfriend/girlfriend has just left you. However, you have to realize that things are not set in stone when it comes to getting back together after a breakup. In other words, it’s probably not as bad as you imagine, and you actually have a very good chance of making things right and getting a second chance.
That is, of course, if you are willing to do whatever it takes. And don’t be fooled, it’s not as easy as it seems. In fact, this is where most people go wrong and ruin their chances forever.
Here are 5 steps you need to take this very minute if you ever want a chance to get back with the love of your life:
Be careful what you say to your ex. It can be tempting to tell them exactly what you think of them (especially if you truly believe you don’t stand a chance), but it can come back and bite you with a vengeance. There are certain things you just can’t get back. Try to control his temper and if you feel like you are about to say something you might regret, just walk away and live to fight another day.
Limit contact with your ex. There should be a cool down period after a breakout. If you continue to contact them for answers, you will end up driving them further away, that’s guaranteed. Just remember that nothing you say right now will make things better, in fact, it will have the opposite effect and destroy any chance of reconciliation you have. Although you may be tempted to call and text them until they give in and agree to meet with you, this is the worst thing you can be doing right now.
Don’t seem desperate. If you insist on jumping every time your ex pays attention to you, you may come across as needy. They will realize this in an instant and you may find that you have absolutely no power left in the relationship. We all want what we can’t have and value what is hard to get. A needy person usually doesn’t create the same attraction as someone who stands their ground and shows a bit of confidence.
Make sure you have other things in your life. Unless you have other distractions, you’ll be thinking about your ex 24/7. There is a limit to how much a person can take and eventually he may decide to break away and start calling and texting them if he has nothing else to occupy his time. Start a new hobby, reconnect with friends, travel a bit, whatever it takes.
After a while (a few weeks, at least), you’ll want to reconnect with your ex. Don’t wait too long, as you may find that time has a way of erasing the close feelings you shared with each other. There is a fine line between waiting too long and contacting them too soon. Stay calm, don’t seem overly anxious, and avoid bringing up your past relationship or getting too personal. Think about how you wowed them the first time, and be that person again.
Getting back together after a breakup is often simply a matter of changing the way you view the situation, recognizing the pitfalls, and taking steps to improve your odds. The good thing is that it is something that anyone can do if they want to.
